Person to person helps both the person asking and the person giving prayer or help. Do not ever be afraid or embarrassed to ask for help!
A young woman asked for prayer with her temper. Her outbursts “over nothing” were increasing and she was “losing control”. More and more, she was becoming unhappy and feared losing her blessings!
I paced and prayed, asking the LORD first to give me wisdom and understanding, then to show me how to “answer” her. This required more than just a “praying for you” response. She really needed help and direction.
I was lead to check her own personal web sites to get a glimpse of her true heart, and where her “mind” was focused. As we think, we are. Out of our heart comes our words. The LORD Jesus even says it is the things that come out of a person which make a person unclean [Mark 7: 15, 20-23]!
“For from within, out of a person’s heart, come forth wicked thought, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, greed, malice, deceit, indecency, envy, slander, arrogance, foolishness…All these wicked things come from within, and they make a person unclean [21-23]”.
I saw why I was directed to her sites: derogatory remarks , lusty and sexual mockeries, with flirty looseness of character. In between these remarks were scriptural quotes! I wept and cried out to the LORD, checked my own emotions and went straight to the Scriptures for wisdom.
“To lose temper” is the same as “to lose self-control”! “Temperance” or self-control is “egkrates” in Greek, comes from “strong” or “masterful”! If you are temperate, you are in control, strong, and exercise self-restraint.
As a believer, every word out of our mouth should be to His praise! As we lift Him, He draws others to His side! We are ambassadors for Christ!
“…You must strip off your old nature, because your old nature is thoroughly rotted by its deceptive desires [Ephesians 4:22];
And you must let your spirits and minds keep being renewed [v.23],
And clothe yourselves with the new nature created to be godly [v.24]…
Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, violent assertiveness, and slander, along with all spitefulness [v.31].
Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted; and forgive each other, just as in Christ God has forgiven you [Ephesians 4:32]
“For this very reason, try your hardest to furnish your faith with goodness, goodness with knowledge, knowledge with self-control, self-control with perseverance, perseverance with godliness, godliness with brotherly affection, and brotherly affection with love [2 Peter 1: 5-7]”.
Faith given in Christ—>goodness—->knowledge of God’s laws/ the Way—->SELF-CONTROL—>perseverance—>GODLINESS—>brotherly affection—>Love
Our goal is to be like Christ, have a calm state of mind, an even disposition, focused on the things of God. If we lose our temper, do not let the sun set on it, but apologize, forgive, modify, bend in humility, get in tune! Adjust! Strengthen! Toughen, harden your resolve not to lose it again, knowing you set an example for others.
And it is perfectly evident what the old nature does. It expresses itself in sexual immorality, impurity and indecency….getting angry…[Galatians 5:19-21]
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, humility, SELF-CONTROL [v.22].”
In short messages, I gave the above from my heart to this young woman. She never messaged “thanks” or “amen” to my knowledge. But….I visited again her web site and it was “clean”, no “filth” ! I can “only” pray that it made a difference in her heart and life. I would like to “think” that it did. I am sure of this: if she made any changes toward her relationship with God, she is blessed! Amen.